Connor Paul Heitzmann
For about the past month or so, my girlfriend of two years and I have been struggling. We have been fighting more often, and she has seemed distant. Nothing has changed, and I am unsure what I need to do. Any thoughts?
– Anonymous Nick
Dear Anonymous Nick,
With all relationships worth keeping come the good and the bad. It is inevitable that two people will hit a rough patch at one moment or another. I do believe that you may have answered your own question when you said that nothing has changed.
If you are going to make anything last in life, whether that is a job or a relationship, it will require a little bit of work. From the sound of it, you both seem to really care for each other for sticking it out this long, but that does not mean that things can’t get boring at times.
Seems to me that you both are experiencing the same routine over and over again. Ask yourself, when was the last time you both went out for the night or did something spontaneous? Most relationships need more than frequent trips to Redbox and home.
It’s never a bad thing to take your significant other on new adventures. Does she have a favorite place to visit? What hobbies does she enjoy?
Ask questions. It is all about communication. Be there for her, be able to share what’s on your heart and be open to hear what is on hers. If things still continue to get worse or seem as if nothing is changing, talk to make sure you both are on the same page.