Alexis T. Rhoden
Every pregnancy is unique, but things get a little more interesting when you enter your senior year of college and discover that you’re pregnant with triplets.
Ole Miss student Nyesha Mitchell discovered her senior year that she was expecting three babies. That meant three times more stress than your average college students.
“I cried… A lot,” she said. “You know, senior year in college. That means I’ll have to take a break. Also, at the time of finding out, I was dealing with guy issues with their dad,” she said.
Many young women would have become depressed thinking about their loss of freedom and time away from school. Some may consider pregnancy a mistake, but Mitchell views it as a blessing. She doesn’t feel having triplets will keep her from her dreams. “It’s really an indescribable feeling,” she said. “Like I’m making people.”
It took some time for Mitchell to fully accept it. She was in shock when she first found out and said: “I only have an Altima.” She started immediately thinking about how all of the babies would fit in her small, compact car. “That’s what I said when the doctor told me it was three babies. ‘I only have an Altima.’”
Her children’s godmother, Patricia Willis, laughed while Mitchell told the story. Willis has been present for all doctor’s appointments.
“Then Nyesha asked the doctors, ‘Are you sure those aren’t cysts,'” Willis said. “I’m stopping everything to be supportive of her in every way. I’m excited to meet them. At first, I was very shocked, because thinking ahead of everything Nyesha had going on, but I’m so happy. I’m not picking any favorites [between the babies].”
A young, college student pregnant with triplets needs all the support possible from parents, family and friends. Mitchell has a strong support system. She described her mother as being the most nurturing parent in the world.
Although her mom is a traveling nurse, she checks in all day and comes home every chance she gets. “My support system is great,” Mitchell said, adding that she knows the father of her children will be present in their lives.
The previous day, Mitchell visited the nearest Baby “R” Us. As she thumbed through the recently purchased baby clothes, she started showing which outfit she had purchased for each child.
“I got Kai this cute little shirt,” she said. “Well, I’m having two boys and a girl. Kegan, Kacen and Kai.”
Mitchell took off this semester so she could work to save money. She knew that when the babies were born, there would be a gap of time before she could return to work and school. Daycare costs for one child averages $500 biweekly.
Having a child is expensive for young adults. “Next year, around this time, I plan to be in nursing school,” she said. “I will start applying next spring so I can prepare for whichever program I get accepted into.”
Mitchell said this made her want to work harder to get where she’s destined to be. “Taking off this semester gave me time to figure out exactly what I need to do for the sake of these little people who will one day look at me for advice on what to do,” she said. “I want them to know anything is possible. If I can do it as a senior in college with three babies and an Altima, anything is possible.”
Mitchell plans to get a bigger vehicle and keep moving forward.
“I just want young women to understand that children don’t slow down your vision, nor ruin your life,” she said. “God placed them there for a reason. Let them be your reason. When they get older and look back on all you did to make sure they lived comfortably, I’m sure they’ll be grateful.
“I know it can be harder on people who don’t have a strong support system. That’s why I’m so thankful for the one I have. I’m so excited to meet my bundles of joy soon.”